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Your Reality is Created by Your Thoughts

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Your reality is created by your thoughts

As we journey through life, our understanding of reality often feels grounded in the tangible: what we can touch, see, and hear. Yet, delve a little deeper into the realms of positive psychology and well-being, and you'll discover a powerful notion: that our thoughts largely shape our experiences and, consequently, our reality. 

 The Mind-World Connection

The human brain is an intricate web of over 100 billion neurons, each capable of making multiple connections, shaping thoughts, emotions, and perceptions. Each thought we have can be linked to a myriad of neurochemical processes, and these processes, in turn, affect our emotional state, our physiological reactions, and our actions. 

 So, when we say "our thoughts create our reality," what we're really suggesting is that our internal narratives and beliefs influence the way we perceive and interact with the world. This concept is deeply rooted in both ancient philosophies and modern psychology.

Evidence from Positive Psychology

Positive psychology, a relatively new branch of psychology founded by Dr. Martin Seligman, focuses on the strengths that enable individuals and communities to thrive. Within this field, numerous studies have emphasised the relationship between thought patterns and life outcomes. 

  1. The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy: At its core, a self-fulfilling prophecy refers to a belief or expectation that influences a person to act in ways that make the belief come true. For instance, if an individual consistently thinks they are incapable, they might avoid challenges, leading to a lack of growth or experiences that confirm their limiting belief.

  2. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): One of the most successful psychotherapeutic methods, CBT is based on the premise that our thoughts (cognitions) influence our feelings and behaviours. By addressing and reframing negative or distorted thought patterns, individuals often report improved moods and better life satisfaction.

  3. The Growth Mindset: Research by Dr. Carol Dweck revealed that people's beliefs about their abilities impact their success. Those with a fixed mindset, who believe abilities are static, tend to avoid challenges and give up easily. In contrast, those with a growth mindset believe abilities can be developed, leading them to embrace challenges and persevere.

Harnessing the Power of Thought for Well-being 

As a wellbeing and positive psychology coach, understanding the intimate dance between thoughts and reality is paramount. Here are a few examples of how I help clients harness this knowledge: 

  1. Awareness: Before we can change our thoughts, we need to be aware of them. Mindfulness practices can be a powerful tool for this. 
  2. Challenging Limiting Beliefs: Encouraging clients to question the validity of negative or limiting thoughts. Are these beliefs based on facts or simply unfounded fears?
  3. Visualisation: Our brain often struggles to differentiate between vividly imagined experiences and real ones. Visualisation can be used to "practice" positive outcomes, fostering a greater sense of confidence and readiness.
  4. Gratitude Practices: Regularly reflecting on and documenting positive experiences can rewire the brain to be more attuned to positive events and opportunities.


Our thoughts and beliefs greatly influence our external reality. By recognising and utilising this influence, we can guide our lives towards our goals and overall well-being. The phrase "Change your thoughts, and you change your world" captures the essence of this concept well.

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